(03-12-2012, 01:57 PM)Niall Wrote: From that essay there Tom, it really does sound like you bottle things up. Take for example your gcses. Most people are nervous when they do them. This obviously was setting off your IBS. If you have any form of medical condition like that, they have to let you go and they would of done so. You just need to start being a bit more open. I can't really talk as I'm terrible for just bottling things up then it usually ends in me having a massive argument with someone or loosing my temper in other ways. It got to a point where I was taking it out on my friends and worst of all Fiona. Would get to the point where I'd be so worked up, she would say something silly and I'd just loose it and end up shouting at her for no real reason just because I needed to get all this bottled up anger out. Been fine for ages now since making a conscious effort not to bottle things up but my point is, it's shooting your self really!
Yeah I totally agree...I was always under the impression stuff goes away if you ignore it, but thats obviously not quite right. Thing is I never really had anyone I could talk to - thats the reason I ended depressing the chatbox so much as I needed to get stuff off my chest, but no-one to talk to. I have made a decent effort to not do that anymore as I know it takes down the whole forum....I think I'm managing not to do it lately.
I must say though, eventually the bottle explodes, and there are some awesome people on here who I have PM'd more recently when it does get too much and I do feel slightly better after getting stuff off my chest and taking advice from them.
I've never had any anger issues though, I go completely the opposite way, totally silent when I'm getting to that point, which is probably worse tbf.
(03-12-2012, 02:10 PM)C2K Wrote: Why don't you go and live with one of your nans? I'm sure they'd appreciate the company and are extremely unlikely to interfere with your OCD. Go and live with the one who likes cars the most lol.
You need a hobby - you need to do something like Karate or squash or something. It will give your mind a specific focus, long enough to stop the anxiety shits! You need something that you enjoy doing and look forward to, rather than getting worked up else you'll never break your cycle.
I wasn't a stereotypical teen either, wasn't interested in smoking, drinking, shagging behind the bike sheds with skanks etc - contrary to popular belief that doesn't make you any less normal. I turned out fine.
I can't stand being ill either, to the point I haven't vomited in 13 years since I had food poisoning. come close and know full well getting it out is best but can't bring myself to do it, but the dr knows best and never had a problem with a prescription. I'm not fond of needles either but put my mind elsewhere when I get jabbed (had 16 jabs since joining the company - the joys of travelling to ghettos like India for you).
Hell I was so scared of getting Delhi Belly I only ate fruit and drank bottled water for a week, I lost a stone in 5 days! I need to go again.
My Nans are worse for cleanliness - one of them last week, her oven broke with a chicken ready meal in it - she ate it anyway, and when asked 'was it cooked?' she goes 'well, it was defrosted'!!!!!
Genuinely couldn't believe she'd eaten it lol. But also she'll clean the bog with a sponge and her bare hand, and when the dog comes home with a shitty arse she'll wash it in the kitchen sink. I don't know how old people can be so unhygenic (sp). So living with Nans is out to - although I have offered my Nan to come live in my room and I'd house sit her house/dog over xmas....Mum wouldn't let me ask her though.I guess it's kinda nice (thats the wrong word) to know other people have a problem with illness too - theres no way I'd be eating at all in India though haha!!
I do need a hobby - apart from playing with 306s lol, but hobbies all cost money which I currently don't have.